Why do I attract the wrong people?

In fact, there are two things to remember. The first is that you don't necessarily attract what you want in a life partner, but rather what has been programmed into your subconscious. The second is that you have something that attracts the toxic relationship, an asset: money, a cottage, a position, a larger social network, access to an influential person, a lot of energy, in short, something that attracts him.

And now you will say to me "if I attract what is programmed in my unconscious, how can I know what is programmed in my unconscious and how to change it?" Let me tell you the best kept secret about the unconscious. Because on the Tandem Effect dating site, we want to make sure that you're not going to meet someone just for three months, we want to make sure that you're going to meet someone that you're going to be able to shine with, to blossom with and to be at peace with, because you fully deserve it.

So there was a scientific experiment that was done several years ago where men were asked to be in one room and women in another room. In the men's room, 70% of the men were said to be healthy and 30% were violent. In the women's room, 50% of the women were said to be healthy and 50% were women who had been victims of domestic violence. Each of the women was asked in turn to enter the men's room without speaking to anyone, to go around and, on leaving, to identify three healthy men. The results were very surprising because the so-called healthy women identified the healthy men as healthy. The women who had been victims of domestic violence, and therefore knew the mechanisms of the toxic relationship, systematically identified the violent men as healthy. One would have expected the opposite.

So what happened ? The answer in this video.