We often talk about unconditional love for others, but what about the love you give to yourself? Love is what we all seek. Oddly enough, it's available at will, it has no limit to the amount. So why is it so hard to find? Simply because it's what we don't give ourselves. How do I do that? By choosing myself, holding myself in mind and giving myself importance in the relationship.
Love should be unconditional, that is, without expecting anything in return. But it is giving for oneself while taking into account oneself. So, it has to start from me first. I do it because I want to do it. Unconditional love, I can give a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot to others, but it is always proportional to what I give to myself.
Let's take an example. Some people could easily win the volunteer of the year award for the other person, that is to say that they will give a lot, they are hyper generous, but they often feel that they are not appreciated at their true value and that everyone has ambitions on them, on that person. There is a difference between not being able to say no and giving a lot of love.
Do you give because you can't say no, do you give to make yourself loved or do you give because it makes you happy? What you give in industrial quantities is in the hope of receiving some of it for yourself, to feed you. But you remain empty. Because to nourish yourself, you must first take into account this need and give yourself the right to say no if this is what vibrates for you, so give yourself this importance. To do it out of obligation, to please others, is not to take yourself into account. The more love I give to myself, the more I can love myself unconditionally, the more I can love the other unconditionally too.
